Whether or not women have always been able to climax during sex, they certainly can, and do, now. Medical professionals contend that every woman should be able to have an orgasm, if she wants to.
Furthermore, many sex experts argue that a majority of women are perfectly capable of climaxing several times in a row. So what's the secret?
Before we get into how women actually do "come," it's important to note a few significant differences between male and female orgasms.
For one, aside from all of the urban myths you've heard, women simply do not ejaculate like men do; only a small minority of females produces some liquid at orgasm. Surprised? Don't worry, it doesn't mean that they feel any less incredible than men do when they come.
The other major difference between male and female orgasms is that after climax, some women (unlike men) can come again, and again and...again.
Some women even have the ability to have multiple orgasms within several short minutes of each other. As noted by various physicians, this ability is extremely rare in males, and also uncommon in females (it tends to be most common in more mature women, apparently).
However, with the help of a skilled lover, many women can gain the capacity for achieving passionate, successive orgasms with their partner.
One of the most significant differences between the male and female orgasm is the way in which women actually get off.
In other words, while most men can often quickly ejaculate if their penises are rubbed, women are totally the opposite; their sexual organs are not simple buttons that can be pushed—the conditions have to be totally right for any action to happen. Put simply, the female orgasm is not powered mechanically.
Although females differ in terms of what exactly makes each woman climax at a particular time, there are some general variables that are pertinent to all women.
These include, but are not limited to: a romantic atmosphere; pleasant surroundings; a partner who they like; feeling good, wanted, and appreciated; a good flow of natural lubrication; and a skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.
Aside from these suggestions, which will likely contribute to a great orgasm in your female partner, you should also bear in mind that sexual intercourse by itself is not always going to make a woman climax.
This is largely due to the fact that intercourse alone is not super effective at stimulating the clitoris—that's why foreplay, including finger and oral stimulation, is essential to the process.
According to www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/feature/helpwithorgasms.htm, what is most important is to "never give your female partner the impression that she ought to be able to climax through intercourse alone, or that that is what you think of as 'proper' sex."
Women do not all feel pleasure in exactly the same way; some climax easily through oral sex, some love the clitoris, and others simply can't get enough of the notorious G-spot.
So how the hell do you know what she wants, and what's going to turn her on? Ask her. Trust me, it's hot.
If you're wondering what men's and women's experiences with orgasms are like at Bowdoin, here's some fun facts we gathered through an orgasm survey:
When asked at what age they experienced their first orgasm, men said age 12, on average. Women, on the other hand, had their first orgasm at age 16, on average.
When asked how they got their first orgasm, the most common answer for men was masturbation, at a whopping 76 percent; nearly 30 percent of women, on the other hand, claimed that their first orgasm resulted from either masturbation or and 25 percent through intercourse.
If you're still not sold, here's a list of 10 "things to do" from www.netdoctor.co.uk/menshealth/feature/helpwithorgasms.htm that will make your female partner orgasm on a regular basis:
1. Don't be in a rush.
2. Don't be too demanding—it's not an Olympic event, people.
3. Talk to your partner—ask her what she wants you to do to her.
4. Always create a romantic atmosphere.
5. Make sure that everything is comfortable for her.
6. Stimulate other parts of her body before delving into her sexual area.
7. When you stroke or kiss her genitals, don't rush into her clitoris; take your time.
8. Use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris.
9. Encourage her to "run" your sex sessions; watch and learn!
10. Stimulate the clitoris.